Bowel Detox

I just completed a 3-week bowel detox program. Results were remarkable. Just as with the first time that I tried a liver detox program, the results on this first bowel detox were emotional in nature. And just as with that first liver detox, these results manifested within just 4 days of starting the program.

What were these remarkable results? They were the apparent vanishing of a lifetime of belligerence. Say that to almost any of the friends I've made over the last 10 years and they would be surprised to hear of my belligerence. That's because over this time, I had made inroads on my personal development to steer away from this state of mind with almost everyone.

But over the past year, two classes of people would still wind me up from time to time. The first class are my startup clients. The second is my wife.

Before starting this bowel detox program 3 weeks ago, I had reached a functional state with my startup clients. Whenever I'd feel irked by their decisions, I'd give it 24 hours, then have a polite conversation the next day, letting my client explain where he was coming from. Then we'd resolve any differences amicably.

But with my wife, with our daily interactions, this approach didn't seem feasible. Every discussion between us was "live". So, multiple times per week sometimes, we'd start a discussion in civil tones, and end up arguing.

If you know Enneagram theory, then my wife and I are two of the types with "unconscious anger or hostility". That is, we can start a conversation with an undertone of anger or hostlity in ourselves, but not even be aware of it.

Put two people together like that, and pretty soon each of us is thinking that the other "started it".

This is the case even for people like us who are aware of our types and our proclivities. It's one thing to understand and know how we suck. It's altogether another thing to just not suck. 

Anyhow, 4 days into this detox program, my wife started a conversation with me using an undertone of hostility. I heard that tone, and instead of reacting, I defused the situation. We haven't had an argument since.

Basically, the bowel detox program seems to have kidnapped that reactive little boy inside of me. Didn't know he was hiding out in my bowels!   But I'm glad he's gone.

That is, I hope he's gone! I mean, I hope this wonderful effect continues past the end of this detox program.

Today is Day 1 post-program. So far, so good.