Beverly: I find the same practice useful. If only I can see someone as a young child, I can't be mad at them. Given that I believe most all of our annoying behaviors arise from childhood (ie. we learned them as children), it shouldn't be hard to see an annoying 47-year-old as a troubled 7-year-old. But it takes practice.
I'm a strong believer in trying to "tell the story" from the point of view of the person with wom we are upset. When we're upset, our mind narrows, and makes it hard to do that.
When dealing with someone who is challenging, I have found by visualizing them as either an elderly person or very young child this gives me the strength in a loving way to be both empathetic and understanding.
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Beverly: I find the same practice useful. If only I can see someone as a young child, I can't be mad at them. Given that I believe most all of our annoying behaviors arise from childhood (ie. we learned them as children), it shouldn't be hard to see an annoying 47-year-old as a troubled 7-year-old. But it takes practice.
I'm a strong believer in trying to "tell the story" from the point of view of the person with wom we are upset. When we're upset, our mind narrows, and makes it hard to do that.
When dealing with someone who is challenging, I have found by visualizing them as either an elderly person or very young child this gives me the strength in a loving way to be both empathetic and understanding.